Letters of Note: I write for myself and I’ll say anything I damn well please

•October 1, 2012 • 1 Comment

Letters of Note: I write for myself and I’ll say anything I damn well please.


Convention for those wounded in love – an extract from Paulo Coelho’s blog

•September 10, 2012 • Leave a Comment


General provisions:


A – Whereas the saying “all is fair in love and war” is absolutely correct;


B – Whereas for war we have the Geneva Convention, approved on 22 August 1864, which provides for those wounded in the battlefield, but until now no convention has been signed concerning those wounded in love, who are far greater in number;


It is hereby decreed that:


Article 1 – All lovers, of any sex, are alerted that love, besides being a blessing, is also something extremely dangerous, unpredictable and capable of causing serious damage. Consequently, anyone planning to love should be aware that they are exposing their body and soul to various types of wounds, and that they shall not be able to blame their partner at any moment, since the risk is the same for both.


Article 2 – Once struck by a stray arrow fired from Cupid’s bow, they should immediately ask the archer to shoot the same arrow in the opposite direction, so as not to be afflicted by the wound known as “unrequited love”. Should Cupid refuse to perform such a gesture, the Convention now being promulgated demands that the wounded partner remove the arrow from his/her heart and throw it in the garbage. In order to guarantee this, those concerned should avoid telephone calls, messages over the Internet, sending flowers that are always returned, or each and every means of seduction, since these may yield results in the short run but always end up wrong after a while. The Convention decrees that the wounded person should immediately seek the company of other people and try to control the obsessive thought: “this person is worth fighting for”.


Article 3 – If the wound is caused by third parties, in other words if the loved one has become interested in someone not in the script previously drafted, vengeance is expressly forbidden. In this case, it is allowed to use tears until the eyes dry up, to punch walls or pillows, to insult the ex-partner in conversations with friends, to allege his/her complete lack of taste, but without offending their honor. The Convention determines that the rule contained in Article 2 be applied: seek the company of other persons, preferably in places different from those frequented by the other party.


Article 4 – In the case of light wounds, herein classified as small treacheries, fulminating passions that are short-lived, passing sexual disinterest, the medicine called Pardon should be applied generously and quickly. Once this medicine has been applied, one should never reconsider one’s decision, not even once, and the theme must be completely forgotten and never used as an argument in a fight or in a moment of hatred.


Article 5 – In all definitive wounds, also known as “breaking up”, the only medicine capable of having an effect is called Time. It is no use seeking consolation from fortune-tellers (who always say that the lost lover will return), romantic books (which always have a happy ending), soap-operas on the television or other such things. One should suffer intensely, completely avoiding drugs, tranquilizers and praying to saints. Alcohol is only tolerated if kept to a maximum of two glasses of wine a day.

Final determination:
Those wounded in love, unlike those wounded in armed conflict, are neither victims nor torturers. They chose something that is part of life, and so they have to accept both the agony and the ecstasy of their choice.
And those who have never been wounded in love will never be able to say: “I have lived”. Because they haven’t.

Your Soulmate Isn’t Who You Think It Is.

•September 5, 2012 • Leave a Comment

Your Soulmate Isn’t Who You Think It Is..

It’s really ok

•August 31, 2012 • 1 Comment

It’s really okay to:

– sing out of tune

– wait to marry the love of your life

– move out of home

– speak exactly what you are thinking and not feel bad about it

– cry

– throw a tantrum

– make love all day

– be scared

– walk away if it doesnt feel right

– give it a shot

– give the cute guy your number

– not want to marry or have kids or do everything everyone else is doing

– be mad at yourself

– make the same mistake twice

– be completely clueless about where your life is going

– believe or not believe in God. But believing in something bigger and mightier than you always helps.

– want to give away money to a cause only you believe in. Hell its your money.

– not listen

– run away. But find yourself where you go.

– love till your heart hurts



my bucket list

•August 23, 2012 • Leave a Comment

last night, before i went to bed, i watched this movie I’ve been meaning to see for a while but for some reason the CD was scratched and didnt read on the player, the file on my hard drive didnt work or I just wanted to watch something more romantic.

then i watched ‘The Bucket List’, a poignant story about 2 men with 6 months to a year to live and how they dont sit around waiting for death to happen and instead make a list of all that they want to do befor they die. i cried shamelessly after it was over.

So i decided to make my bucket list (note : its subject to some major editting given how long I have)

1. Id like to spend a month in Italy. Id like to get the best spaghetti Ive ever tasted and see the most beautiful sights in modern Rome.

2. Fly a plane. A commercial jet would be super otherwise anything with wings and an engine would do.

3. Kiss the most handsome man in the world (I have to admit this might already have been done

4. Scuba dive. Professional stuff.

5. Get married in one of the most beautiful cathedrals in the world. Just him and I.

6. Get married.

7. Adopt a baby boy and make him my own.

8. Feel inspired by something like never before.

9. Send my parents on a much deserved anniversary vacation – all expenses paid.

10. Leave behind my thoughts and experience, how ever amateur to inspire someone else.

11. Model at a fashion show

12. Live in New York

13. Create my own brand.

14. Be loved by children. And learn to love like a child.

15. Listen to the blues at a small little pub in Chicago at 2 am

16. Save a life. Even if not literally.

Back to the drawing board

•August 22, 2012 • Leave a Comment

Im 27 and have been a corporate slave (I used to think differently until recently) since I was 19. Ive actually been the youngest in every team I have worked with since 2005 till today. I used to think that was cool…but Im beginning to wonder where are the youngsters at ?

While I slog away at my desk and auction my soul at client meetings and performance reviews I realized that the gaping hole in my soul isn’t from my want of a fat paycheck. its from the fact that I am supposed to be doing something else with my life. I have actually moved from trainee – executive – asst. manager – manager and that hasn’t changed anything. I used to think people respected designations but people dont care. and my real problem was that Ive worried about ‘people’ too long.

every day there is this gnawing in me saying ‘do something different’ ‘go out on your own’ ‘be your own boss’ ‘start something new’ and Ive been ignoring the signs way too long.

so what am i waiting for ?

To me at 21

•August 22, 2012 • Leave a Comment

Love the time you spend with your parents. You will miss them every day when you move out of home.

Move out of home. Its an experience like no other.

Live alone, room with someone (preferably from the same sex) – its cool to be open minded about having a guy for a flatmate. but its NOT convenient.

Dont be afraid to struggle, its okay to be broke, its okay to be able to only window shop. money is like a guy, when you stop running after it, it magically appears out of nowhere.

Eat ! And enjoy every bite.

Treat your women friends well. They may be much more competitive, much more moody and much more work. But they are your strength as you grow older.

The person you are in love with right now may not be the person you love ten years later. Thats really okay.

Find something you are passionate about aside from your work. And if you can create something that pays the bills you will be happy, independent and answerable only to yourself.

Help others. In anyway you can.

Theres a difference between being IN LOVE and loving someone. Recognize it. And if you can, wait to be IN LOVE.

Lastly, it only gets better. So look forward to growing older.



Paulo Coelho

Paulo Coelho Writer Official Site

Sukanya Ramanujan

Gatherer of experiences